Marriage

Just being at a wedding I’ve got marriage on my mind. Its rather odd since I’m not dating anyone but my grandma was there and she kept telling me how she wanted to be at my wedding. I kept thinking to myself that is going to be a long time from now but I also kept thinking about what mine was going to be like and if I would ever even be ready to marry someone.

Even if I’m not ready to marry someone yet I still can’t wait to be. Yeah sure it’s a scary thing but it also seems like a great adventure. First you find the girl and then you date. Then you ask for her hand in marriage then you get married. Simple right? I wish!

The first part is hard enough but then you have to meet the family and then introduce her to yours. Do they like you? Will they approve of you marrying their daughter? What about your family and how they feel about her? After you make it past that then you actually are really getting to know each other. Finding out how each one goes through struggles, how they communicate, to how they even love. It’s a hardship that makes the relationship worth what it is. Without pain and struggles could you ever enjoy the love that you have for each other that comes from simply just loving? I don’t know but I hope to know someday.

After all that then you, the guy, find yourself buying a ring that says I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Then comes the wedding.

There is so much to decide for the wedding. The hardest part I would think would be who is your best man and who is in your wedding party. Is it going to be big or small? Which of your friends do you choose from and who gets paired with who? Which family members and friends are invited to the wedding? Do you have more at the reception? What about food and drinks? There’s flowers, dresses, tuxes, churches, reception halls, and where to even have the wedding. There is so much to choose for just a short time frame.

You want to make it the most joyous of celebrations because you are celebrating one of the greatest things in your life. Everything has to be perfect.

Now I’m no expert on these things and many people have written books about them but what if we decided to make things simpler. Make it just elegantly simple so that the focus is on what the purpose of the wedding actually is. A contract between God, the husband and wife. I don’t know how that would look but I think that we have strayed from it somehow. Not all but most. I’m just throwing it out there that yes it should be a celebration but that isn’t the focus of it. What should be is that it’s a contract with God that you will keep for as long as you two are alive.